How are you “BEING” today?
In this blog, you will find out:
What is Unbalanced Doing?
The Two Parts of the Mind.
Balancing Your Being & Doing.
Have you ever thought,
“What makes you keep doing things that you find it hard to stop and simply BE?”
My answer is what I call Unbalanced Doing, also known as DOING, DOING.
As you know, all your doing starts with your thoughts, which is a mental process. Therefore, doing, in this case refers to each of your thoughts.
What is UNBALANCED DOING?
Unbalanced doing is when you allow and act upon your unconscious and unhelpful thoughts or beliefs.
When you are used to the HABIT of UNBALANCED DOING,
You are doing inside (mentally) and outside (acting) at the same time working both the emotional and the thinking mind at once.
Believe most of your thoughts (helpful or unhelpful) without paying attention, staying in the present moment, or being curious, thinking, and seeing the relationships between occurring events.
Reactive to things, rather than being proactive.
Think Mind (Thinking and Emotional)
Human beings, with their advanced and sophisticated brains, are born "Doers." They are both thinking (psychologically) and behavioural (physically) organisms, which requires both the emotional and thinking parts of the mind. I mean, you all have got here by doing. You have started doing things since you were conceived and continue to do more until you lose balance. It begins with a loss of awareness, enjoyment, time, interest, or else you are clinically proven to be unable to function.
Have you ever thought,
What makes you ‘Do’ and continue to ‘Do’ more until you lose balance, slowly making your wellbeing worse?
Do, More Doing, Complex Doing
The habit of doing things is created and starts in your mind. Throughout billions of years, the human brain has evolved from merely figuring out simple tasks such as:
What to eat and where to get it. (Pleasure)
What is going to eat you and what to do to stay away from it. (Threat)
The Two Parts of Your Mind
The Thinking Mind
Nowadays, the known brilliant part of your mind is capable of more complex, creative thinking, and skills that have advanced modern ways of living. Human beings, in comparison to other animals, have and can develop sophisticated ways of doing things that have improved education, science, technologies, engineering, arts, etc. which is processed by the 'Executive Function,' the higher, thinking part of the brain.
The Emotional Mind
These new complicated thoughts have left the marvellous unknown part of the mind more confused. When your mind is left unmanaged, it can sometimes bring about distortions, complicated feelings, and counterproductive behaviours.
Despite the higher functioning and advanced human brain, it is interesting how challenging it can be to:
Stand back from thinking.
Differentiate thoughts from feelings.
Distinguish between what you are thinking and what is happening.
The complicated ways of DOING (thinking, feeling, and acting) boil down to your thoughts about what is being or doing in your presence or imagination. The brain is always searching the environment for pleasure and threat. Most importantly, the next thing that will excite it. Your brain quickly forgets what is right in front of it and loses attention. It has a habit of jumping to conclusions and leaving you with confusion!
The way you think makes all the difference to your wellbeing and your way of living. The irresistible urge to derive unhelpful meanings, e.g., using language to interpret what you believe you know, or draw conclusions out of the unknown, can affect your way of thinking, feeling, and acting. The mind can easily lose focus, reacting, and making judgements while leaving you with doubts, insecurity, and indecisiveness.
Unchallenged unhelpful thoughts are a habit we take from childhood. I believe that I was not taught how to simply “BE” as a young child. The same goes for most young people, which leads to the habit of unbalanced doing. I was also led to believe that external circumstances alone caused my feelings and actions. This was one of the most detrimental self-defeating beliefs in creating problems.
The continuous habits of doing using both parts of the mind (Thinking and Emotional) can be devastating, leading to thinking errors and reoccurring unpleasant emotions. The result for functioning individuals like yourself can be stressful, with constant unpleasant feelings of sadness, jealousy, guilt, shame, fear, and mild anxiety. Ongoing unhealthy doing that causes re-occurrence of these feelings can lead to clinical psychological wellbeing issues such as severe anxiety and depression.
Balancing Your Being and Doing
What you can do to identify, challenge and change your unhelpful thoughts is to balance your 'BEING' with whatever you are 'DOING.' Both parts of the mind are continually doing, and by being, you will have the power to observe your thoughts with a feeling of neutrality and not getting attached. The emotional mind needs to “BE” to work in harmony with the thinking mind (doing mind). In doing so, it will give you the feeling of control, composure, and confidence in all your endeavours. You will feel balanced, healthy, and yet be more productive.
In using this simple technique, it saved me lots of energy and made me feel liberated, happy while becoming more productive. For you to stop the habit of unbalanced doing, you want to develop the skills of balancing both parts (thinking and emotional) of your mind, BALANCING BEING & DOING. I understand that no one taught you how to be, but here is your chance to educate yourself.
Do you want to develop your “BEING” skills in identifying your negative, unhelpful thoughts?