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Hello Doer,

How are you being today?

This blog will briefly explain the shared human brain chemicals and how the presence of each makes you a doer.


What else could you be doing (thinking) when you believe you are physically doing nothing?

Psychological and Physical Doings

As living organisms, what makes us human beings is our doings (the complicated thoughts, feelings, and actions). The brilliant brain is continuously doing, helping us to function and stay alive daily. The two parts of the mind (Thinking Mind and Emotional Mind) housed in the #brain are continually processing what we sense and interpreting it to become our perception. Both the psychological process of doing and the physical actions carried out, as a result, shape our reality, making human beings #doers.

No matter what you think you are doing or not doing, the human brain will continuously release appropriate bodily chemicals. These determine our state of being and motivate our actions at a particular moment.

Whether you are sleeping or sitting quietly and observing or watching TV, feeling hungry or thirsty, saying, or not saying something, you are still thinking, feeling, and taking some form of action. It is this doing, starting with a thought about what we have sensed (Stimulus), and the meaning we give to it, that either moves us towards (approach) or away from (avoid) what we perceive. That is to say; Your thoughts create the feeling that is the result of your action.


#Neurotransmitters play a vital role in how the brain works in controlling and coordinating an individual's body. The feelings generated from the brain, down through the whole body, depend on the complicated exchange between probably over one hundred different kinds of neurotransmitters. At any one time, complex mixes of these chemicals are released inside the body as signals, influencing our brain, causing and affecting our doings. The levels and balance of these brain chemicals in our body change everything we do from unconscious thinking to conscious movements, such as learning, sleeping, and our mood.


Hormones work like chemical signals; they are chemical messengers in particular glands in the body and cause-specific organs to respond in a certain way. Feelings are described best as sensations in the body. The feeling of happiness or sadness depends on hormones and other chemical signals released from the brain. The brain chemicals increase or decrease brain activity associated with body movements called emotion.

The Pleasurable Brain Chemicals

Of the 100+ neurotransmitters, it is only a small percentage that influences most of our functioning. Here are some common brain chemicals and hormones that dictate our mood and regulate troublesome emotions.


  • Researches show that Serotonin regulates mood, sleep, and has a broader effect on appetite.

  • It is associated with learning and memory. The sense, or belief, of feeling important generates the flow of Serotonin.

  • A low level of Serotonin results in anxiety depending on the thought, gender, personality, and circumstance. It sometimes leads to aggression or depression in the person.


  • Scientific evidence clearly shows that Endorphins reduce levels of stress by balancing mood and helping to control stress and anxiety.

  • "The Feel Good" chemical helps suppress physical pain, acting as pain relief while positively boosting your mood.

  • Endorphins are released naturally during exercise and other physical activities.

  • Any activity that releases endorphins will reduce discomfort and thus enhance the capacity for empathy.


  • Dopamine is known to generate feelings of pleasure hence the common name "The Dopamine Effect."

  • It is associated with the controlling of movement and rewards the learning process, which explains the increased degree of motivation.

  • When in conjunction with Serotonin, they generate “the feeling of Happiness." Dopamine could also raise the level of alertness in a person when coupled with noradrenalin.

  • This is the feeling you get when you believe that you will be successful at meeting your essential needs and desirable wants. It is connected with goal striving and attainment, creating a feeling of euphoria.


  • "The Love Hormone" gives the feeling of trust, secures a more excellent bond between mother and child, helps us build empathy, and is also involved in romantic attachment, maternal love, and infatuation.

  • It is associated with social bonding and friendly social interactions, such as the physical display of emotions and feelings of generosity.

  • It influences the parts of the brain involved in controlling emotions and depresses the fear and anxiety centre (amygdala). It helps reduce the effects of stress hormones called Cortisol. Emotionally stressed people tend to have low levels of Oxytocin in their bloodstream.

Other Hormones

"Adrenaline Rush"

  • Among other effects, adrenaline releases in the body and stimulates the heart, so it beats faster.

  • This is required to prepare the body for 'flight and fight' mode in the face of a threat. In a stressful situation, the release of Cortisol is present in the body.

  • It is also released when we feel excited (can be used as motivation or drive) or shocked.


Finally, vasopressin is another hormone that encourages friendliness in us. Being friendly is linked to aspects of our social behaviour. In addition to its purpose in assisting us in drinking water, vasopressin could influence some degree of defensive or aggressive behaviour depending on gender. It ensures we are better able to read facial expressions in recognising who to trust.

We produce these chemicals by communicating with our nerve cells (Neurons) at any time. In reacting to stimuli based on our thoughts; (information sent to the brain), the chemicals surge in the body and could change your mood from happiness to despair in a split second.

Doing nothing does not exist as human beings are psychologically and physically doing. The secret I found in balancing my brain chemicals is "BEING". This has helped me rest and rejuvenate my mind. I create effortless energy daily with the ability to motivate myself in achieving my doing.

Do you want to be a personal scientist in learning to balance your BEING & DOING?


  1. David, A. (2019) The Secret Life of the Brain: Unlocking the Mysteries of the Mind

  2. McDowell, P. E. (2015) Thinking about Thinking: Cognition, Science, and Psychotherapy

  3. Spilsbury, R (2013) Emotions From Birth to Old Age (Your Body for Life)

Hello Doer,

How are you being today?

This blog will give you a snapshot of what a superhuman you are. The organ that is responsible for your ability to balance your being and doing.


Do you know what your functioning #brain could do to help you achieve a healthy and fulfilling life?

I believe it is essential to understand the basics of the brain. It is certainly the case if you are a young adult interested in learning how to rewire yours to work to your advantage. Understanding the fundamentals of how my brain works and its developmental processes have helped me develop a greater sense of awareness. I feel more in control of my thoughts and emotions. I believe I understand what might be going on in my body as I challenge and change my thoughts, and take relevant steps in achieving my doings.

What makes us human beings?

Our doings makes us human beings. Doing, in this case, is our (Thoughts, Feelings, and Actions). And whatever you want to become or be doing is created by your thought. Our doing starts with a thought (an idea) which tends to become a reality. The thought process takes place in our enormous, complicated human brain.

The Superhuman Brain in its Simplest Form

The brain is made up of billions of interconnected nerve cells (Neurons) coming together to form different parts or centres. Each takes on various roles in controlling and coordinating the behaviours of a living body. The elements of the brain I will focus on are the thinking (Prefrontal Cortex) and emotional (Limbic System) centres.

The Thinking Brain

The singularly static, secretly silent brain is capable of wonderful things. It works in harmony with other parts of the brain by releasing appropriate chemicals in our bodies. It also reacts and responds to external cues from the environment. The "Executive Functions" of the brain, known as the (Prefrontal Cortex) specialises in the control of the most important daily functions. This is where the conscious cognition process takes place. E.g., Creativity, problem-solving, and burdening our thoughts with emotion while making decisions.

The Emotional Brain

The human brain is a very complex structure and a product of billions of years of evolution. The Limbic centre is also known as the primitive part of the brain. It is a group of small parts in the middle of the brain that simply exists for our survival. It is unconsciously constantly scanning the environment for pleasures and threats.

The Known

Both parts of the brain are what form the human mind. They are both #doers. The thinking mind also known as the rational brain is what helps us learn and guide us through the relevant steps of achieving all our doings.

The Unknown

The emotional mind, also known as the reptilian brain connects with the mid brain. This is the part humans share with other animals for survival. This part doesn't know that you are reading this blog at the moment. It's sole function is the "four Fs" according to Howells (2018) Fleeing, Fighting, Feeding and Fornicating and leaving it on its own to make judgements can lead to thinking traps or errors.

Mind-Body Connection

The mind, as it is called, is a mysterious set of cognitive processes embedded in the working of the brain. Our brain, body, and mind are interrelated. The thoughts about what we sense and what it represents (pleasure or danger) sends information to the brain that automatically generates our emotional response (feelings) and our reactions (behaviours) to it.

Think Mind & Emotional Nurturing

Both the thinking brain and emotional brain work together. However, before you start wanting to learn to become someone or do anything; first, you want to learn to "BE". Then, you balance your being with your doing.

This means, for you to learn to think flexibly and rationally, first you will want to calm the emotional mind. This is the principle of THINK MIND & EMOTIONAL NURTURING and the foundation of balancing BEING and DOING.

Do you want to learn more about What Makes You a Human Being in unleashing your potential?


  1. David, A. (2019) The Secret Life of the Brain: Unlocking the Mysteries of the Mind

  2. McDowell, P. E. (2015) Thinking about Thinking: Cognition, Science, and Psychotherapy

  3. Howells, L. (2018) Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Adolescents and Young Adults: An Emotion Regulation Approach

Hello Doer,

How are you "Being" today?

This blog aims to introduce myself by telling you a little bit about how my transformational change took place.

What else has to happen in your life for you to choose to end suffering and take the courage to change?

Learning to ask myself one useful question at a time is precisely how my change came about. I was delighted when I found out that I was having a baby girl.

My belief about how having a child would allow me to re-live my life the way I want was reinforced. Her presence forced me to be present when the "baby blues" hit me right after she was born.

The post-natal depression went on for a while. I became hyper-reactive, extremely irritable, anxious, and burnt-out. This led to stress when I returned to work part-time while also studying and mothering.

The thought of missing out on enjoying time with my daughter suddenly made me aware of how unhappy I felt even though everything else seemed well on the outside. For the first time in my life, I became conscious of my Being (self-awareness) and was curious about myself. I asked myself:


"What do I Want?" and replied, "to be Happy."

"What is Happiness, and what is it like to be Happy?"


My Experience with CBC and CBT

This curiosity and my savviness led me to self-help. This is how I discovered Cognitive Behavioural Coaching (CBC) and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) (CBC & CBT are different) alongside some medication. I was so desperate to find answers that I was willing to try it all.

My therapy sessions went on for a very short period because I had already started to coach myself using CBC. This also made my therapy sessions more effective because I already knew what it was like to have my PAWS (Psychology Responsibility, Action Ready, Willingness to Change, and provide Support & Care for myself). After my therapy ended, I have since continued to use CBC on myself daily to manage situations effectively.

My Discovery

What I discovered was mind-blowing.

  1. A Long-term habit of "thinking Errors" (Unhealthy, useless, ACTs [Anxiety Creating Thoughts])

  2. What makes us Human Beings (The acceptance of Self as a Human Being)

  3. What Being Human is like (The recognition of Human Beings as Fallible)

These three transformational life-change discoveries have been used to end suffering. Not just for myself but with family, friends & my clients in empowering them to make healthier life choices.

Self - Coaching

Through self-coaching, I learned that what makes us human beings is our doing. It is our complicated doing (thoughts, feelings, and actions) and experience of our existence in ensuring our survival.

All our doings are directed and coordinated by our brains. Using self-coaching, I discovered:

1. The Power to BE (BEING): Using a fully developed adult brain and #Neuroplasticity. I had the power to find the neutral pathway between my emotional & thinking brain. I developed the skills to think on purpose and change the unhelpful thoughts I did not want.

I learned to challenge my thoughts in creating the feelings I wanted. At first, this was not easy. However, through lots of studies, perseverance, and consistently practising mindfulness and meditation, I was able to find acceptance (State of Being). I was also able to strengthen my mind to stay focused in the present with loved ones and manage my doings (thoughts, feelings & actions). The balancing of your BEING & DOING is a continuous self-management process.

2. Growth Mindset: My daughter has been my best teacher so far. I learn and observe her as her mind develops from a clean slate (tabula rasa) to creating her own beliefs about what she would like to become or be doing.

She has inspired me to be open-minded. Being youthful at heart helps us grow. I intend to ensure that she retains her natural skills of presence and curiosity in helping her raise her self-awareness. I also want to strengthen her emotional intelligence while cultivating her mind on a daily basis in creating a healthy and fulfilling life. This is the same path I am now following.

3. HERBS: Finally, self-coaching helped me find my own HERBS through the means of developing my skills to balance my “Being” and “Doing.” HERBS stands for:

  • Happiness

  • Energy

  • Resilience

  • Balance, and

  • Self - Sufficiency

This has helped me create a healthy and liberated reality. I nourish my relationships with my daughter, husband, and other family and friends, as I continue to expand my social network and achieve a positive work-life balance.

I have learned and developed the ability to "BE" and to let others "BE." Also, I have learned the skills to silence unhealthy thoughts and disengage from them while letting go of control & letting other people "DO" (think for themselves and take psychological responsibility). As a result, I am consciously making helpful and productive decisions for myself, and living and achieving (State of Doing) in a less distressing way as well as being open to support others.

My Intention to Give

I developed the courage to take on the challenge of finding my happiness by identifying things within and outside my control. I started anew and let go of all my doings by going back to the basics (The way of Being). This process helped me to understand myself and the world as well as strengthening the bond between my mind, emotion, and body.

My instant reaction in seeing the benefits of a self-coach was:


"Why didn't anyone tell me about this earlier in my life?"


On that note, I made a conscious decision to support and bring self-coaching awareness to individuals, especially young adults. I intend to use this blog to share my knowledge, experience, in balancing my BEING & DOING. As well as my journey as a human being playing different roles while experiencing the uncertainty of what being human is.

In using my vitality and drive to achieve, I further studied to become a certified coach. This has led me to my journey and courageous goal of being an effective coach, and launching my coaching practice 'THINK MIND & EMOTIONAL NURTURING.' The aim is to empower young people in caring for their thoughts and feelings. Help them become their own coaches in discovering their HERBS & leading healthy and more fulfilling lives.

I hope you will join me on this journey to learn what makes us Human Beings and what being human is like. Together, we can use these discoveries to uncover the secret to living life to the fullest while feeling liberated.

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